Frequently people admonishing others for lacking empathy give scenarios involving teaching or feedback. Rarely do you see any criticism of the abusive nature of people who constantly ask for advice/feedback too often or only when they want praise for being awesome narcissists.
In fact, if the help vampire had empathy they would see that the other person isn’t being “abusive” and would take the tone in context. The simple act of taking offense at a tone which isn’t sufficiently submissive and fawning demonstrates a lack of empathy and abusive behavior.
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Another way to put that is: If you scream “abuse” because someone didn’t use an incredibly gentle and submissive “tone” then you are an abusive narcissist. Adults don’t expect everyone to constantly kiss their ass. Only a narcissist thinks everyone has to tread gently with them.
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And when you read the “abusive” words it’s laughable to call it that. Abuse is not “Well actually,”. Abuse is Steve Jobs telling a font designer his designs were “absolute fucking garbage”, which he did. But Jobs was a CEO…so y’all got no mention of that.
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Abuse is when other supposedly “empathic” people hop on twitter to tell someone to commit suicide, or delete their account, or trying to get someone fired. Abuse isn’t telling you that the design you spent 20 minutes on needs more work. Thinking it is makes you a narcissist.
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