yungdeleuze

My girlfriend has had a different life. She’s from a poor part of India, worked hard to get to JPMorgan there. She was told “Why do you work here? A woman should have a family.” She told me this was sexist.. sometimes I think there was actually some wisdom in that statement..

She works for big tech and we live in a tech city now. They pay her about 1/2 of her market value. But she can’t quit or get competing offers because of her visa situation. They know this. They didn’t give her a raise last year "because the stock price went up”.

Surely the year that the stock price goes down, they will give her a raise, right? They have assured her that her promotion is “imminent” for over a year now. That money would change our lives, if it lasted. She has started to become disillusioned.

I don’t think I contaminated her worldview, I tried hard not to. She worked for a few years in NZ before coming here, she often tells me now that “this place is not like NZ.”

I dream often now of packing up and moving to the country, maybe Montana or Wyoming.. with our computers, and start a new dream of a new kind of life. A new adventure, starting from 0. With an intention to build a home and a family. Funny how many roads lead back to the source..

I’ve tried to talk to her about this, but I know it involves asking her to sacrifice her own dreams of being a tech executive. I can’t be responsible for killing the dream she’s worked her whole life for, especially when you consider the impact on poor family back in India.

Interested in your perspective.

Sounds like you’re good-hearted and don’t want to live by anyone else’s rules.