Yuli Miller

Wake up, grow up, & clean up (taking longer than anticipated) to reduce force-fitting outdated paradigms and past based responses on present situations. I can now make better decisions based on the past, present, and desired future moment by moment.https://twitter.com/LifeMathMoney/status/1172765393737269250 …

Can relate to the longer-than-anticipated "clean up"! What was the most helpful practices or models you found for reducing past-based responses?

So far it has been a combination of (1) Anapana/vipassana to better catch the reactions and (2) a year long program where we trigger each other, distinguish the past, and choose a rational decision in everyday life. I supplement with realization therapy for processing deep trauma

But the reactions don’t reduce unless I replace them with a more rewarding behavior. Eg. when getting triggered, seeing the reaction, courageously choosing a different behavior, and consciously seeing the outcome train me out of that reaction as it proves unnecessary with data.

Fantastic. Thank you so much for sharing. This resonates with me a lot and approximates the things I’ve been doing but I haven’t been consistent enough. I trigger all the time on my own though (food/chem sensitivity) so no need for others to do it at least...

I haven’t heard of realization therapy and my meditation practice isn’t so specific so I’ll check them out. I have found IFS therapy and the differentiation between core emotions and inhibitory emotions very helpful.