Yuli Miller

Wake up, grow up, & clean up (taking longer than anticipated) to reduce force-fitting outdated paradigms and past based responses on present situations. I can now make better decisions based on the past, present, and desired future moment by moment.https://twitter.com/LifeMathMoney/status/1172765393737269250 …

I underestimated how solid the hardwiring from my childhood would be. I can be fully aware of a pathological response and it’s origin story, but awareness doesn’t do a damn bit of good to change it unless I put in consistent, incremental work in rewiring my responses.

Yess! Only responsibly choosing a different behavior will do the job because we don’t have “benefits” data for this cost benefit analysis. We have an unknown for new behavior, so it requires courage and an understanding that the current pathological behavior is not working.

Well said! And for me it requires continually reorienting toward the new choice. Almost like I’m slowly de-magnetizing the old choice, but if I let my awareness lapse I snap back to the old choice and re-magnetize it. But holding ground away from the magnet feels unstable.

Me too! The way I see it is data. The more data I have on the new choice having a higher ROI, the less compelling and hold the old choice will have. It seems to be a learning process.

Do you have a background in risk assessment or behavioral economics? You seem to be very attuned to those processes.