"do men and women have exactly equal interest" is just a silly question. It doesn't define "interest in what", it shifts the conversation from wide disparities to "exactly equal" and has very little to do with the (empirical) systemic issues people are working on.
Asking people working on fixing systemic issues to instead explain, for the millionth time, why this framing is bad, is not something you get to do. And telling them they are "establishing heresy" because they're tired of repeating themselves is silly at best.