In context, this person was saying I'm better at this than most people. That most people can't help reacting defensively to criticism.
-
-
Replying to @polotek
I'm pondering this today, and I want to hear other thoughts. My expectation is that we can all get good at doing this. Is that wrong?
8 replies 1 retweet 14 likes -
Replying to @polotek
Is this something ppl even want to do? When I call ppl out on getting unnecessarily defensive, they usually say it's natural.
6 replies 1 retweet 8 likes -
Replying to @polotek
What I mean is that I rarely have ppl acknowledge that getting unnecessarily defensive is a bad thing. It's not something they regret.
4 replies 3 retweets 9 likes -
Replying to @polotek
People reserve the right to defend themselves. Even if they're wrong and the critique is valid. They feel right in protecting themselves.
1 reply 3 retweets 8 likes -
Replying to @polotek
This is important and something I need to explore. It means that any criticism will only get accepted much later. Removed from the incident.
3 replies 2 retweets 7 likes -
Replying to @polotek
Ppl often say they want honest feedback, and that they want it as close as possible to when the issue is occurring. This is common.
2 replies 3 retweets 6 likes -
Replying to @polotek
But the reality doesn't actually bear this out. In the moment, ppl take any criticism as threat. Defensiveness is the natural response.
3 replies 1 retweet 16 likes -
Replying to @polotek
This isn't always the case, but the burden of achieving the *exact* right delivery to avoid defensiveness is placed on the other person.
4 replies 4 retweets 15 likes -
Replying to @polotek
I don't think that's reasonable. I think it should be a goal of ours to get better at hearing valid, well-meaning criticism. Am I wrong?
3 replies 2 retweets 25 likes
You are not. I feel exactly the same way.
Loading seems to be taking a while.
Twitter may be over capacity or experiencing a momentary hiccup. Try again or visit Twitter Status for more information.