Mason  🏃‍♂️ ✂️

On causing conversational cache misses:https://twitter.com/webdevMason/status/994080521893371904 …

Worth mastering to what end? Also, is it good or bad to have these caches as the questionee?

I think most people have a library of answers, views and pub stories, so what I'm guessing @webdevmason means is going beyond these, making people think, getting their real opinions out of them.... A good mission.

When you regurgitate a cache, you're broadly less cognitively engaged — less likely to be running checks on whether you actually believe each part of the thing you're saying, less likely to connect most effectively with the interests or input of the person asking, etc.

Alas, often the question itself is a cache! Mutual cache-suspicion nation? #MCSN

Yep. People mostly complain about "so, this weather!" small talk, but you can have small talk about big topics, too. It's a much better experience when people who are curious about each other & care about some of the same things happily offer their full attention to one another!

True, but there is also good research on the value of "phatic communication" - i.e. exchanging kind trivialities just to re-affirm bonds and signal acknowledgment of the other person's presence. Problems arise when this is *all* there is....