Mason  🏃‍♂️ ✂️

Totally agreehttps://twitter.com/webdevMason/status/1297386625282924544 …

The really sad thing is that it was... pretty much the only thing a generation and a half had to go on? I think we shuffled smoothly into Fifty Shades just to fucking feel something

Yeah— that definitely feels right. There’s very little mainstream media that explores sex in a nuanced or healthy or inclusive way. Rewatched The L Word & it was offensive to me

There's a real unmet demand for sex in film that isn't funny. That's actually hard to do, which is why so much porn is funny even when it accomplishes what it's there for. A guy hitting or choking a girl isn't funny, so it becomes a shortcut to "real" even when it's utterly fake

(Or so my theory goes.)

do you have more to say about this?

Well, hmm — it's really difficult to package a third-party "real sex" experience. I think @default_friend is right that it happens more often in lit than in film, possibly because readers sub in so much more of their own memory and imagination when they're consuming that way.

I wonder to what extent you can develop a richer sexuality out of romantic lit if you haven't had any great sex so far. My intuition is that it's doable, if the text cues your imagination properly. But it's fascinating that that could even be possible.