Mason  🏃‍♂️ ✂️

Good point. I missed that angle.

1. It *is* normal. 2. This sentence is to help people acknowledge how they're feeling, instead of add pressure to put on a brave face and suppress it. 3. Those reactions aren't self-deprecating. That's like saying your emotions are wrong, instead of the ideas that cause them.

This is also a valid point. Perhaps instead of saying "not normal" we can say "not required." The same point I wanted to make with @webdevMasonhttps://twitter.com/DruckerPPS/status/1242483787017019394?s=19 …

In my experience, people who try to either foment or suppress their own fear end up mostly failing *and* bringing worse outcomes upon themselves

Without a doubt. Hence the need for a healthy middle ground, which will always require the ability to exist within the dialectic tension of seeming opposites. A skill sorely lacking in the world.

I do think self-acceptance can go too far. Much of the time fear/anxiety is the "hey, this is a bad situation and you shouldn't stay in it" signal. A lot of the language of self-care is designed to maintain whatever is, and that's not generally ideal

So if you force yourself to "sit with" a "flee this" signal, you're not actually accepting your feelings at all.

And at the same time, if we're not constantly examining the validity of the "flee this" response and exploring the unconscious material fueling it, we spend our whole life fleeing, often from life itself.