I think it's something some people are fine hearing, if a bit jarring. For others, it's not, and the person doing the rejecting is not going to be the same one who deals with the fallout.
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I feel like you guys are talking past each other. Being indirect is a net negative because it’s disingenuous and sets the stage for miscommunication that just compounds over time. Now, I don’t think it’s something that can’t be overcome, it’s just an unnecessary hurdle
tbf, I have no skin in the game. I don't "date" in the traditional sense because it has *never* been an enjoyable or effective way for me to find someone to be in a relationship with. I'm relaying information based on a lot of tears cried onto my shoulder. Take it or leave it.
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I've seen this failure mode *a lot* in hippies. I knew a few people who would interpret indirectness as a sign of dishonesty and get weirdly judgemental about it, rather than actually working to make the person comfortable enough to be direct.
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I think you can only partially take responsibility for someone else's responses. They have their own shit.
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Unfortunately dating is the *only* way I’ve been able to meet people romantically, so messed up and barren is my social life. But that doesn’t mean I don’t fucking hate it.
Thanks. Twitter will use this to make your timeline better. UndoUndo
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