Mason  🏃‍♂️ ✂️

https://mobile.twitter.com/mattgoldenberg/status/1237121592343310337 …

Now I have heard women say they sometimes do this because they fear for their safety. That's understandable. But don't say this is for the other person, they'll figure it out and feel worse because you lied.

Dude, very few people want to hear "I am not enjoying this date and I would prefer to stop now and not have another." If that's what you're into, you should probably mention it. For better or worse, most people prefer some plausible deniability

May be wrong but my sense is that you want to say it as gently and implicitly as you can while still being sufficiently clear about how you’re feeling. Also, people partially read others for how to feel about a situation. /1

Signaling that you believe you’re communicating something devastating reinforces that sense in them, especially because the negativity around rejection is maybe mostly social (lost status, perceived unworthiness).

Yes! And lying about it is even worse because you're implying it was SOO devastating that the other person couldn't handle it.

At any given time, a lot of people are having a rough go of it. Under the best of circumstances, having someone you like tell you they'd rather not see you again is rough. If you do that, you'll never know how the rest of their day went. I'm gently suggesting you consider that.

OK, so you just lead them on for ever, never ever telling them you're not interested in seeing them? You'll have to tell them this eventually, the longer you lead them on, the crueler it is. I gently suggest you consider this next time you lie to someone about being into them.