Mason  🏃‍♂️ ✂️

Yesterday I was on a terrible date with someone I was very not compatible with and didn’t know how to end it without hurting her feelings So I invited her to hang longer and then bought her a coffee and then sat at a bookstore for an extra hour How to not do this

Get a trusted friend to send you a text saying they need you for something at a designated time. If you need to bail, there’s your reason; if you don’t need to bail, just ignore.

Oh god please don't ever do this.

https://mobile.twitter.com/mattgoldenberg/status/1237121592343310337 …

Now I have heard women say they sometimes do this because they fear for their safety. That's understandable. But don't say this is for the other person, they'll figure it out and feel worse because you lied.

Dude, very few people want to hear "I am not enjoying this date and I would prefer to stop now and not have another." If that's what you're into, you should probably mention it. For better or worse, most people prefer some plausible deniability

May be wrong but my sense is that you want to say it as gently and implicitly as you can while still being sufficiently clear about how you’re feeling. Also, people partially read others for how to feel about a situation. /1

Signaling that you believe you’re communicating something devastating reinforces that sense in them, especially because the negativity around rejection is maybe mostly social (lost status, perceived unworthiness).