Yesterday I was on a terrible date with someone I was very not compatible with and didn’t know how to end it without hurting her feelings
So I invited her to hang longer and then bought her a coffee and then sat at a bookstore for an extra hour
How to not do this 
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Now I have heard women say they sometimes do this because they fear for their safety. That's understandable. But don't say this is for the other person, they'll figure it out and feel worse because you lied.
Dude, very few people want to hear "I am not enjoying this date and I would prefer to stop now and not have another." If that's what you're into, you should probably mention it. For better or worse, most people prefer some plausible deniability
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May be wrong but my sense is that you want to say it as gently and implicitly as you can while still being sufficiently clear about how you’re feeling. Also, people partially read others for how to feel about a situation. /1
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Signaling that you believe you’re communicating something devastating reinforces that sense in them, especially because the negativity around rejection is maybe mostly social (lost status, perceived unworthiness).
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Agreed! If I implied you should "I am not enjoying this date and would prefer to stop now and not have another" I'm sorry. There's a vast distance between that "Oh my god my friend has an emergency I need to go!"
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You want to keep it light, make it about chemistry rather than about you not enjoying them.
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