Mason  🏃‍♂️ ✂️

I don't condone people imposing their trauma on others willy-nilly either, but I do understand that such people aren't doing it on purpose because they want to hurt others (of course there are other drives that manifest this behavior as well)

I don't think anyone here was trying to cut Visa down out of malice or for personal gain, but the frame there is extremely poorly calibrated and if there's a ring of eggshells around it things are about to get crunchy. Validating trauma projections ain't my jam

I should probably spell out what I meant here: https://twitter.com/sonyasupposedly/status/1220802270880653312 … anyone charismatic, especially if they're aware of the mechanisms, can absolutely *destroy* a vulnerable person's mental health, on purpose or not. if Visa were evil — he isn't — he *could* do this

Yeah, I think I grok you now: the ability to make people give you the power to make them stronger is the same ability to make them weaker. The perverse response is to come to distrust or even loathe capacity *in general.*

yeah, you articulated that better! I think being explicit that you know you can influence people, and that it's something you do on purpose, freaks people out because of what you said above is it as much "why would you say that" as "uh oh there are people who can influence me"?

for me, I say this stuff for a variety of reasons 1) it is a fucking bizarre experience to have thousands of people listening to you and caring about what you say, even when in absolute terms that's small, like intrinsically you gotta work through that somehow

2) some people have the "game recognize game" response and they are super super super super super worth talking to, also the only reliable collaborators IME, nobody who isn't a cocky bastard executes on stuff the way that I personally like to