Mason  🏃‍♂️ ✂️

YES.

Is it possible that we have some bias of rationality over harmony? I could see how it would be hurtful to feel that your efforts are unappreciated and to feel some obligation to do certain "caring" things (e.g. make tea).

The appropriate thing to do, if you're feeling unappreciated, is to scale back your "caring" to a more sustainable level. In reality, when people who nurture resentment do this they tend to feel *more* upset when their efforts aren't missed. (This tells you something.)

Ofc, some people may prefer a workplace with more social "give-and-take" throughout the day. That's fine, but it's a *preference,* not a morally obligatory structure.