i don’t have much experience here but after practical stuff validating all of her feelings is a good next step. she may need to shut down / dissociate to get some distance and that may be for the best. help her take deep breaths. tell her you’re not judging her
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supporting her might bring up stuff for you so remember to take care of yourself too
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If she's an IRL friend, care packages help. When I was going through some very heavy stuff a while back, I withdrew quite a lot. An A+ friend asked if she could just leave something for me on my doorstep. It was coffee, chocolate, cheese, a little stuffed animal. It helped a lot.
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ooh thank you for this idea I could totally order her something I live too far away to do anything in person
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If possible, order her something that's not super generic and indicates an understanding of her preferences. And if you can, opt for gift wrapping (e.g. through Amazon). It's all about reminding your friend that she's worth the effort! - 1 more reply
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+1 on Mason's advice. When I went through a rough patch, someone sent me my favorite coffee via UberEats the way I liked it every day for a week. Expressing personalized affection and care can sometimes go a long way towards a person's renewal.
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My hunch is the daily method is more effected versus the one-time one. The small kindness expressed as a type of spaced repetition over a period of time feels more intentional and persuasive, daily reminders embodying deliberation and consistency of care.
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wholesome, thank you
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