Mason  🏃‍♂️ ✂️

Yes, and — IMO — you should consider seeking out relationships with cumulative risk and reward if you don't have them already. Intimacy builds naturally in relationships where people aren't filling roles where they're fungible, like companionship. That's vital, but not sufficienthttps://twitter.com/simonsarris/status/1182344417887358976 …

Optionality isn't a *bad* thing, but it trades off against stability — if friends/partners can be replaced, they can replace you. An ideal cultural settling point allows people to abandon harmful relationships but feel secure in their net-positive ones during periods of turmoil

Importantly, committed couples & tight-knit friend groups enable better & qualitatively different outcomes than a bunch of individuals engaging in one-off trades. You can raise kids, build orgs, buy costly communal goods/investments, create financial slack during volatile periods

This is an important point and something I wish overly-political people would take to heart. Sure you can hope for your Manic Pixie Dream Candidate to become prez. Or you could like, start small, and actually *start* something, today!https://twitter.com/simonsarris/status/1164556119425114113 …

I don’t really disagree with either of you, but in my capacity as the chariot slave at every triumph I must say: not everyone gets to be loved; or in this case, will ever have access to the kind of proactive, directed relationships which high-functioning people can achieve.