Mason  🏃‍♂️ ✂️

I swear to god I'm not going trad, but the more I think about it the dumber it seems to encourage young people to do some serial monogamy before partnering up — like people whose only practice is in explicitly disposable relationships would be any better at the real deal

They're not explicitly disposable, just as a practical matter they are because everybody's awful when they're young and our relationships are all almost all doomed to failure until we're more mature.

Except that this isn't really borne out in the data

What’s the data you’re referring to? Pre-marriage relationships are a priori shorter than marriages, and most marriages last. Almost everyone I know took some time to grr wet mature enough for the real thing. Adolescence lasts decades too long, sure, but that’s another issue.

Divorce rates by age at marriage.

Does the dataset you’re referring to restrict itself to first marriages?