In fact, certainty (in the form of “I am going to fail”) is part of the problem!
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"success" isn't the question
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Sorry, misunderstood you. What is the question, then?
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Chaos @chaosprime"man is a social animal" sounds all fluffy bunnies but what it means is that there are deep structures in your brain that try to kill you if your perception of your social status is too low. in Dunbar-number-sized social groups most people could clear this bar. most now can'tShow this thread1 reply 0 retweets 2 likes -
I see. Yeah, I think I still disagree re: the nature of the social status thing. It also doesn’t fit with my experience of people who claim that they would love nothing more than to be left alone with their books or their model trains or whatever... how do they fit into this?
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I think for a lot of people, these claims are a side effect of despair + a lack of understanding of their own situation (easy to lack when born into a dysfunctional culture) but some % really do have minds that vary in this way: they have the mastery drive, it's just less social
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Reading books or building model trains is virtually never done in some arbitrary way; the mastery drive is pretty apparent in ever more complex mechanical/logistical train systems or an ever more interesting/complex set of models for the life of the mind to inhabit
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where one misses the boat is if one proceeds from the idea that it's one's actual social status that matters rather than the output of a black box that vaguely wants to evaluate social status but really just knows what it gets fed
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Yeah, it's really important to recognize that the same phenomena exist on and are explainable in dramatically different ways on different layers. Evolutionary psychology trips up a lot of people — maybe most — this way
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What we do is in some sense "because" we're a self-replicating biological organism resulting from many gens of reproductive success. But that does not really help us figure out how to be happy and playful and nice to each other, the layers from which reproductive success emerges
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(This does fit neatly into the above — think about the traits your ideal mentor would have, even as they're mentoring you *in some sense, on some other layer* to climb a social hierarchy)
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