They also say it’s unhealthy to “bottle up emotions.” I see double-binds like this all over the place, & afaict the net result is that “emotional health” is an arbitrarily flexible concept to be deployed against neurotic people who are functional but bothersomehttps://twitter.com/bretmette/status/1104980344716095489 …
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“Behaviors adapted to … an environment that no longer exists” is a VERY interesting phrase. I hadn’t considered that past behaviors, which I now consider flawed, may have been the best choice at the time given environmental constraints.
There’s a phenomenon in clinical practice @jordanbpeterson talks about: manipulative families sometimes single out & scapegoat one child, then use his “bad” coping strategies to justify it. Clinicians who don’t make strong efforts to see the whole fam system can further enable it
