Anecdotal but… I used to “bottle up my emotions” to avoid drama/conflict, likely in reaction to some intemperate, violent, manipulative family members. My future spouse helped me to be honest about and talk through my emotions. Result: improved relationships, if not individuals.
They also say it’s unhealthy to “bottle up emotions.” I see double-binds like this all over the place, & afaict the net result is that “emotional health” is an arbitrarily flexible concept to be deployed against neurotic people who are functional but bothersomehttps://twitter.com/bretmette/status/1104980344716095489 …
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It’s certainly true that different strategies are more or less helpful in different social contexts, and people are often slow to recognize which of their behaviors are adapted to features of an environment that no longer exists
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Healthy = an organism free from damaging outside influences chemical or physical at the same time bathed in beneficial outside influences Emotion = guessing which is which and adjusting guessing based on pain/pleasure
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I have had both analyses from the same person in different contexts.
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Trapped in a blizzard in Oregon last week: “maybe SAD is a real thing.” Me in SoCal consciously staying indoors after another 90 degree day, “I just don’t like hot weather.” Me in actuality: “Maybe sometimes I get sad. Now back to this puzzle and wrapping my books in brown paper”
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Excellent point. A lot of issues are actually more about the surrounding people. My wife’s very neurotic, but her freakouts stopped bothering me, and I stopped thinking about ways to ‘fix the problem’ when i realized they’re not my problems, and noe I just ignore them.
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