Mason  🏃‍♂️ ✂️

30-year-olds cruising bars for no-strings hook-ups are less a sign of cultural decadence than of pessism, visionlessness & desperation When people are doing what you’d expect if an asteroid were going to hit the earth in 24 hours, it’s not because they’re too happy

Idk. If I wasn't married, I could see myself living moderately happy as a bachelor who sporadically hit up a bar here and there to try to get laid. Relationships are a lot of work and if I wouldn't have fallen so hard for my wife, I could see myself not settling down at all.

"Living moderately happy" and avoiding hard work is not an excellent strategy for the only life one has to live

This keeps popping up in my notifications so I thought I'd clarify a couple things. I'm not recommending people avoid hard work. Each person needs to decide what goals are most important given their values and work hard for them. That might not always be a long term relationship.

Also, if someone is generally very happy and content, but also sometimes stressed out or upset about the general hardship that comes up now and then for just about everybody, that's my model of "moderate happiness." I can't imagine getting much better than that in practice.

I guess at a certain point I’ll throw my hands up and say “okay, a certain percentage of humans really do want all sorts of things.” From the other end, watching people who’ve aged out of the local bar culture troll for inebriated flings doesn’t make it look all that fun

Totally. As I said in the thread, I'd probably use online dating in that scenario. But yeah, I think it's pretty non controversial to state that not everyone wants a long term relationship. No need to throw your hands up.