When consoling people, I try to avoid saying things like “none of this is your fault” or “there’s nothing you could have done.” Agency for blamelessness is a bad trade. More often than not, it helps most to have friends who see you as strong when you feel your weakest
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See also: friends saying “wow your (long-term) ex fucking sucked” without considering the implications that makes on the friend’s dating choices Exception: when the ex - and the friends dating choices - truly suck Basically be honest, really
I think people must just be doing dating an entirely different way from me if it’s not immediately apparent why being on good terms with exes is super super valuable
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sometimes i half-seriously think that some people (subconsciously, maybe) look for romantic partners specifically for the purpose of re-enacting their trauma(s) together, like some sort of tragedy theaterhttps://twitter.com/visakanv/status/981473986327359488 …
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I've always ended up with entwined social circles where it's valuable to *minimally* not make my friends pick between us, since there's a good chance we're gonna be invited to the same parties anyway
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