An addendum to this thread: there are good alternatives to call-out culture, e.g. dynamics built around the principles in @slatestarcodex's comment policy → honesty + social gentleness. Incenting honesty ideally prevents gentle people becoming doormats. http://slatestarcodex.com/comments/ https://twitter.com/webdevMason/status/1019642201494585344 …
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Honesty also *forces* disagreement — maybe I think it's useful to think of the U.S. as "a melting pot," and you think that's a harmful frame. Neither of us is being aggressive or violent, which should be obvious. We can both grow closer & become wiser through conversation.
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As much as I agree with you, I see two problems making progress on this issue. First, most people invested in call-out culture are already self-assured that there are no innocent aggressors. Second, this kind of talk is hard countered by the use of the accusation "Tone Policing."
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Agree — I wouldn't recommend trying to reform a toxic culture. Just leave. Leave, and when you find a social space that's mostly got the right idea, do what you can to further improve & protect it with your own behavior.

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@WarbyParker is “presume positive intent”, and that IMO was the single biggest factor in creating a really sterling internal culture. That one tweak on how you interpret the world short-circuits almost all conflict. -
Huh! I could imagine that backfiring, e.g. "Hey, you just said something pretty racist that hurt me" being responded to with "I'm hurt that you're not presuming positive intent right now". Any tips to avoid that? Maybe.. presume people are trying to presume positive intent? :)
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