An addendum to this thread: there are good alternatives to call-out culture, e.g. dynamics built around the principles in @slatestarcodex's comment policy → honesty + social gentleness. Incenting honesty ideally prevents gentle people becoming doormats. http://slatestarcodex.com/comments/ https://twitter.com/webdevMason/status/1019642201494585344 …
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In a culture of honestly + social gentleness, a microaggression — understood more often as a micro-lack-of-understanding — might be dealt with privately, with something like, "That actually didn't feel great for me! I'd really like to talk to you about it..."
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In a culture of honesty + social gentleness, the assumption is that misunderstanding or lack of familiarity is more likely the cause of social friction than hatred or bigotry, and so social rewards flow more often from information-sharing rather than norm-enforcement.
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Honesty also *forces* disagreement — maybe I think it's useful to think of the U.S. as "a melting pot," and you think that's a harmful frame. Neither of us is being aggressive or violent, which should be obvious. We can both grow closer & become wiser through conversation.
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That's what always amazes me about some of these attacks. Like, you're selecting out people who want to listen, and selecting for people who don't give a shit what you think. DO YOU WANT ANTS? BECAUSE THIS IS HOW YOU GET ANTS!
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re being "less sensitive to social attack w/o becoming less sensitive to others' needs" - more comfort in own skin and arguing only w/in circle of competence does both? More engaged w/ idea (than poss personal edge) and less perceived threat to personal ID so more open to others?
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