IMO, one of the worst aspects of call-out culture is that it incents "a thick skin," which often just means broadly deadening your sensitivity to the people around you. Not sure it's even possible to be less sensitive to social attack w/o becoming less sensitive to others' needs.
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In a culture of honestly + social gentleness, a microaggression — understood more often as a micro-lack-of-understanding — might be dealt with privately, with something like, "That actually didn't feel great for me! I'd really like to talk to you about it..."
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In a culture of honesty + social gentleness, the assumption is that misunderstanding or lack of familiarity is more likely the cause of social friction than hatred or bigotry, and so social rewards flow more often from information-sharing rather than norm-enforcement.
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Honesty also *forces* disagreement — maybe I think it's useful to think of the U.S. as "a melting pot," and you think that's a harmful frame. Neither of us is being aggressive or violent, which should be obvious. We can both grow closer & become wiser through conversation.
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