Mason  🏃‍♂️ ✂️

Not saying "don't warn your children about the dangers around them," I'm saying that children are actually pretty good at evaluating obvious, visible risks, especially once they've been pointed out, & that exploring them may actually be an important aspect to their development.

Adults are terrible at evaluating risks to their kids, in this cultural moment erring hard on the side of total risk avoidance. I think instilling fear-compliance as a survival strategy is pretty harmful, but separately I think there's a high cost to having zero trust in children

I don't have kids, not for lack of trying. I'm around a few parents who don't menace their kids at all (and are also pretty cool on bribery). No broken necks yet. Do you think they must be negligent?

What I'm trying to get at: (1) do you think a fear-compliance relationship with your child is *necessary* to keep him safe, and, separately (2) do you think there are some negative consequences to having that kind of relationship?