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A quick note: It's true that women and girls are subject to all sorts of pressures, expectations, cruelty, abuse, harassment, etc – I'm not dismissing any of that. It's just also true that being a man can also be hard, in its own way – and dudes don't know how to talk about this
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Guy: "I feel like I have to be more manly around (my girlfriend)." Author: "Sounds like fragile masculinity to us." TRP is right when they say that men have to be automatically good at being men. Express uncertainty about *that* and you're a lesser man cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/re
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It's absolutely true that women are not rehabilitation centers for shitty men. So maybe let's talk about where shitty men come from, why they are the way they are, and maybe what we might be able to do about it. A few quotes to start with
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(It’s very hard to talk about this stuff because... I don’t know how to adequately contextualize the challenges of men (which I think I appreciate) against those of women, which I only understand in a secondhand, piecemeal way. I’m bound to say something stupid and wrong)
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In my mind, a man should be (I’ll score myself /10 for each) - strong 6 - smart 9 - sensitive 7 - courageous 4 - nourishing 9 - cool-headed 9 - confident 7 - charismatic 8 - stylish 4 - skillful 7 10 arbitrary variables I just made up - I’m 70/100 Any man below 50 = miserable
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