The basic diff between men and women at an existential, meaning-of-life level might be this: The challenge for women is to figure out how to live a _good_ life. The challenge for men is to figure out how to live a _necessary_ life. Solving for quality vs solving for necessity.
I have no opinion on “need” in a normative sense. I think there *is* one based on my anecdotal observations. I don’t have enough data to speculate about nonbinary individuals.