Much anger is a result of not having cultivated impatience as a more focused response.
Anger, unlike impatience, is a natural rather than cultivated response.
But it includes impatience, so is adaptive where only impatience is needed. The extra stuff in anger is overhead/tax
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I learned this as a child and made it a life’s mission to cultivate patience as a core goal. It’s very liberating to continually recognize how most stuff that gets people worked up has little effect on me.
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I’ve come to think of patience as more often a vice than a virtue, especially when it slips into acceptance of things that need to change. For me, it is often preferable to anger but rarely to impatience.
It’s a real Goldilocks situation. Too little patience forecloses some very desirable opportunities and interactions. Too much is a vector for being exploited.
Love your point about impatience vs. anger.
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