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Most serious and consequential debates are decided by one side running out of stamina and the other winning by default. When something actually matters to you, staying in the debate is more important than winning or losing particular points.
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Let me flip the question around for you. What serious and consequential debates were decided by one side admitting the other side was right and getting on board? (as opposed to just quitting the conversation)
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Another similar in spirit example is legislation. Left and right rarely work together. They just move their policy agendas forward when they have majority. Consistently losing ideologies drop out of the legislation game rather than accepting the winning view.
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broader point is finite vs. infinite game (play to win/play to continue the game). Consequential debates are almost by definition infinite game. There is no ultimate victory or defeat. Only tactical ones. There's only staying or quitting longer term.
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Likewise I think it's your position that needs examples 😂. If I squint all examples appear to fit my model at least approximately. Marital disagreements are a good clear example. Most are resolved by one spouse deciding to accept without conceding. 'This too shall pass'
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