Not seeing the faults of your friends seems to be part of reciprocal altruism programming
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You still see their faults; you accept or love the faults.
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That's the saintly minority. Most just go into denial and turn on others who point out flaws.
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Eh. If they’re *really* friends, their faults will be too much to ignore. You mean, “people you wish you liked.”
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This might be a semantic argument about the definition of “friend.”
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I have specific examples in mind where they are clearly real friends, and one refuses to believe or even hear negative things about the other, turning around and attacking the accuser of lying etc
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Do you think they believe it? Or feel the duty to defend?
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For some it's an overt duty thing, but that kind of raw tribalism is not as common as the subtle kind. When it goes overt, usually there is also active complicity.

