Not seeing the faults of your friends seems to be part of reciprocal altruism programming
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You still see their faults; you accept or love the faults.
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That's the saintly minority. Most just go into denial and turn on others who point out flaws.
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Eh. If they’re *really* friends, their faults will be too much to ignore. You mean, “people you wish you liked.”
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This might be a semantic argument about the definition of “friend.”
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Or an unconscious behavior. Or a benefit-of-doubt bias. Friends also tend to have edited friend-faces for each other that may not reveal uglier sides. Friendship is rarely as honest a thing as people pretend. Uncanny valley between oblivious and enabler.
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True. A friend might (and we all do) successfully hide a flaw. The interesting question is: what do you do when presented with evidence of the flaw. Blind/deny/ignore/accept/love?
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I don't know about "inheriting the earth" or anything...
...but the #feral inherit a shit-ton less cognitive dissonance stress.
For just the reasons you cite.


