There are 2 basic reasons (not mutually exclusive) people act secretly in ways that directly, negatively, affect others: fear and contempt.
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I don't think you can be indifferent to pain you cause unless you're a sociopath. Dehumanize+ (contempt | fear) necessary for most
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You could argue that contempt is rooted in fear
So it's always fear
Or, anything that's acted not out of love
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Yes and the key word is "secretly". People who can't understand how deep their fears are won't sort them out for you to try to understand.



