Niceness is the basis of reciprocity in emotional labor (I'll be nice to you today when you're feeling low, you return favor when I'm low)
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Reciprocal niceness is basis of what I called 'loserdom' in the gervais principle. But there is also such a thing as emotional capitalism.
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This is being nice without requiring reciprocal niceness, but requiring *different* behavior in response such as creative output
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Service emotional labor breaks reciprocity for direct cash compensation: you be nice to me, I pay you money. It's a weak scheme.
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Managerial emotional labor otoh, breaks reciprocity in niceness to converts emotional capital into economic. Much better.
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But that's still lossy zero-sum/negative sum. There's a net cognitive cost to it. You have to be clueless enough to not notice the drain.
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The most powerful mode is what I call emotional capital mining: generating EmCap reserves faster than relationships draw them down
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Renewing your emotional capital by going for a walk in the woods is like panning for gold. There are deeper, more industrial-scale ways
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The key is to recognize that human relationships can only redistribute emotional capital (with loss), not generate it.
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We definitely disagree here (it's a common one between religious/non-religious people). See my responses to Dillon Chen.
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My position doesn't come from religion, it comes from heart-to-hearts and really deep 3 am conversations.
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If you accept that there can be negative-sum pointless escalating arguments shouldn't you accept there can be positive sum conversations?
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