Reciprocal niceness is basis of what I called 'loserdom' in the gervais principle. But there is also such a thing as emotional capitalism.
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This is being nice without requiring reciprocal niceness, but requiring *different* behavior in response such as creative output
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Service emotional labor breaks reciprocity for direct cash compensation: you be nice to me, I pay you money. It's a weak scheme.
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Managerial emotional labor otoh, breaks reciprocity in niceness to converts emotional capital into economic. Much better.
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But that's still lossy zero-sum/negative sum. There's a net cognitive cost to it. You have to be clueless enough to not notice the drain.
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The most powerful mode is what I call emotional capital mining: generating EmCap reserves faster than relationships draw them down
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Renewing your emotional capital by going for a walk in the woods is like panning for gold. There are deeper, more industrial-scale ways
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The key is to recognize that human relationships can only redistribute emotional capital (with loss), not generate it.
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Generating emotional capital requires caring relationships with non-non-living parts of the universe. Creative work, exploration, etc
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Seems like this is true for introverts but doesn't hold for extroverts
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Introverts are like bigger generators with smaller batteries.
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I've met extroverts who mistake big batteries for infinite emcap, and when they crash, they crash REALLY hard, with lot of collateral pain
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