There is no kindness without power. Altruistic self-sacrifice and martyrdom extract payment via guilt/shame whether or not that is intended.
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The root of true kindness seems to be the inability to nurse resentments when weak. This creates freedom when strong, necessary for kindness
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As a corollary, kindness is a way of exerting power. Conspicuous charity is more about asserting power than about helping people.
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not true. Some people are blatantly shameless; they can commit egregious offenses and feel no guilt at all


