3/ For others, especially those doing creative work, it's a liability. Solution: keep identity small, as @paulg says http://www.paulgraham.com/identity.html
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4/ Are alternatively, keep your identity large but ironic. Either way, the key to operationalizing it in behavior is...
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5/ Keep your external standards at "survival" and internal standards at "must be fun"
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6/ Self-esteem is actually a very ill-posed construct that only belongs in highly credentialist organizations, an internalized superego
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7/ There is no such thing. All esteem is other-esteem. Healthier to recognize that primary source rather than program a proxy into your head
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8/ Robinson Crusoe on an island cannot have "self esteem" issues. He only has two standards: survival in external world, enjoyment in head
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9/ Aiming for high self-esteem is like fat supply chains. You insure against uncertainty in other-esteem through internal inventory.
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10/ Like fat supply chains, self-esteem an artifact of industrial age. Go lean instead. Zero inventory. NO self-esteem per 3/ and 4/
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11/ This means externalizing your self-esteem as other-esteem into quality relationships, not insuring against validation volatility
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12/ Alternate lens on self-esteem is attachment theory applied to paternalistic industrial age organizations: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory …
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13/ Industrial age humans needed self-esteem because their attachment to clumsy bureaucratic parents was insecure, like kids of bad parents
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14/ You can do better now, since you can choose relationships much more freely. Your attachment to society can be a lot more secure today.
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15/ And like securely attached children, that allows you to play freely, which is the heart of creative work.
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