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i think the "schrodinger's rapist" meme actually fucked me up subtly but really badly. somewhere along the way i internalized that literally every woman started their interactions with me by assuming that i was literally the worst possible kind of man
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I think it's possible now to start asking "ok, how common is it, really, for women to start interactions with men by speculating about the risk of rape?" it happens, but I don't think it happens as often in public places, nonsexual contexts, etc
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so if you're following 2000s-internet-feminist standards of epistemic humility and respect for privacy and sensitivity around trauma, you have to be in a state of deep, deep uncertainty about how common rape is, how most women think/feel about risk of rape, etc.
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This is a way to spread the trauma through uncertainty entanglement Nice bougies accept the stress as a sort of guilt penance Not so nice ones take it as permission to check out and disengage — “oh, so I don’t know can’t ask, and you won’t volunteer what it’s like, so kthxbye”
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I suspect on the part of the SJW grifter crowd, it’s actually a power grab. So long as they can keep normies from actually talking directly talking to victims, they get to divert political attention to their own discourses “don’t try talking to the poor, read my book instead”
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It’s easy to feel empathy for a very nice poor person or a “good girl” rape victim. Much harder when the poor person is an asshole or the rape victim an unpleasant character, but are still real victims deserving of the same moral consideration and justice.
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Anytime I see champions/advocates picking “deserving” victims who make for nice political pawns, I distrust the. Your championship of a class of traumatized/oppressed people is only as worthy as your efforts on behalf of the least worthy among them.
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