Thinking about "the courage to be disliked" (title of an okay book on adlerian psychology), strikes me that it doesn't take that much courage because most people choose an easier way -- simply being clever enough to dislike people before they can dislike you...
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... What REALLY takes courage is being ignored or dismissed as too unimportant to like or dislike
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I've seen people kinda go mad with rage when their sense of their own importance (which is not necessarily off but usually is) is not validated by people around them... the courage it takes is to choose a reaction other than rage
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This courage is the same as the courage to simply handle being alone
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In twitter terms: For most people, it's better to be blocked than muted/ghosted
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Yeah the part of that book I liked was the logic laddering up to the idea that the closest thing to a purpose in life is community feeling, but the specific bit around courage to be disliked was a bit hard to follow (or remember now, months later).
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I wish someone would (re) write that same book for adults! The parts on power are good.
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Honesty gets you disliked a lot of the time. Encourage it. Honesty that is, like is saying.



