Maybe you just get less of a kick out of being around people than others?
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that's definitely true as well, but not what I'm flagging here. Even for very social friendly extrovert people who get a lot of energy from investing in friends, making that the *only* goal to optimize for is imo dangerous to the psyche, a kind of gollumizing one-ring effect
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I disagree? I think friend-making (in a broad sense - to include status and mating advantages) *is* the main goal behind most endevours.
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What I mean is you don't have to make it the goal, it is.
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C'mon this is like a cartoon darwinism version of solve-for-friendship 🤣
"Only the friendliest survive!"
"Survival of the friendliest!"
"Friendliness selection!"
"Nature red in tooth, claw, and LinkedIn connections!"
The airport pop-sci book titles write themselves
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I think what you and Visa are doing is more sophisticated than this cartoon, but I think you haven't yet found the right language for talking about it properly. So "solve for friendship" is almost a placeholder for something more interesting, which is why I restrain the jokes :D
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You mean Visa & me or Visa & Paul? (Or Peter Paul and Mary?? )
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You and VIsa, both individually and separately. Paul's off doing something similar in a different scene (though now I think of it, his book would probably make a good salon topic for you guys)
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Ah thanks. (Though Visa and I are also doing slightly different things, I think I'm more of a collectivist in some sense.)
Yeah Paul is doing a series at soon - drop by?
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I've now definitely written off the salon scene as not something I can do... closest I come is discord chats
I walked right into that one didn't I? 🤣
Raincheck... I'm at discord max and need to cull a few before adding more. Web3 stuff sucks you into a zillion discords if you don't watch out.
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bookmarking this in case I ever get my asynchronous video chat thingy put together.



