What if you just optimized for the friends you meet along the way as the only goal?
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I'm serious. Not only is "optimize life for X" in general a bad way to think about life, but "optimize for friends" is a particularly bad objective function.
Humans are a social species, but not *only* a social species. To optimize for friends is to become a sheep-logic degen and descend into hell-is-other-people slowly imagining you're being soulful and large-hearted in your approach to life.
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Hmm interesting. I was being more exploratory with this tweet than ideological. I think youre imagining a stance I’m not sure I have. I agree with most of Ben’s piece there already.
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it prob depends on personality.
if you’re naturally very ‘other-oriented’ this approach will steer you into a people pleasing hell.
but if you find yourself really lonely, a little optimizing for connection might add meaningfully to your quality of life.


