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There’s a third sense of “hard” that’s commonly used that’s not work at all, but exhausting because it’s emotionally draining and makes high demands on EQ
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I’ve often hardworked (1), rarely hardworked (2), and successfully evaded 70% hardness (3) because I did the hardwork (1) necessary to see it coming and sidestep it
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When people say “do the work” in a hardness (3) sense, they mean “don’t sidestep or evade even if you can see it coming because it’s cosmic karma you can’t evade forever” Interesting stance. Wrong but interesting.
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Hardness (3) is largely a function of what you choose to want. For example, if you don’t want kids you cut a lot of hardness (3) right out of your life. With no serious consequences for most people under modern conditions.
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Trying an experiment at my startup to reduce that confusion. Essentially, people have the option to explicitly vary their hours/week commitment (eg 32 vs 40 vs 50+), to make one invisible (and important!) type of "hard" explicit. Compensation adjusts
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