laziness is actually a mitigating adaptation for being a pushover
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You can only pick 2 of 3: industrious, pushover, conflict-averse
Otherwise you’ll spend your life being manipulated
A lot of being a pushover comes from simply not having particularly strong burning desires. You’re vulnerable to being coopted by people who want more, more badly
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When someone asks you to do something and you can’t claim you’re up to something more important (the only socially acceptable excuse) without picking a fight, “I’m le tired” is your go-to.
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Many claims of busyness are just cooption defense as well of course, but that’s better recognized
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