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Suddenly realizing I’ve never explicitly thought the thought “how can I be helpful to others?” I mean I try to help if asked or if someone obviously needs help, but it’s all reactive. The proactive thought just never occurs to me. Not counting “how can I help” ritual exchanges
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In hindsight this explains why kids always seem confused by interactions with me. I think they expect all adults to be proactively helpful.
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Funny how some responses seem to take it for granted that I aspire to greater helpfulness Your faith in me is touching but I’m merely observing, not aspiring to do better
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I suspect I inherited this from my mother. It’s something I’ve always done and when I became aware generally didn’t feel the need to pull back. More design life around this need. Why I set up open curiosity conversations with anyone in 2016
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The key is to not overthink IMO, cos you start wondering if the person really needs help, or they might misinterpret your actions, and then miss the opportunity to help.
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I had a friend that said she'd memorize all her roommates schedules and preferences so she could anticipate how to be least disruptive and find ways to be helpful, etc. There's all extremes
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