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Hypothesis: few people actually *want* a full-blown community past about 25. They just think they do. It’s a lot of time and work to be involved in “community” in the sense of shared beyond-family communal daily life (meals etc) and weekly parties, seeing friends everyday etc.
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I think it's somewhere in between. I'm too introverted to live in a commune, but I end up at them once a week or so. More mainstream, a lot of East Coast / Midwest culture involves having a "crew" who you hang out with a lot, including with your kids, etc.
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How big a city are we talking when you say east coast/midwest? New York/DC/Boston/Philly? Newport? Scranton? People underestimate how much of the population lives in larger cities now. Small towns are kinda demographically exceptional now.
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I've seen it from my hometown to NYC. It's often the hometown locals, not the transients, that do it. I've heard that the latter actually find it hard to really break into the "crews" when they move there.
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true in Minneapolis now can feel exceptionally cold to out-of-towners but the scenes, crews, troops, communities etc are exceptionally vibrant once you find them
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Probably in the neighborhoods you/I live in, but I don't think this is fully true. In SF, the Western neighborhoods and others still have deep long-term neighborhood cultures that would feel retro to us if we ever went there.
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