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Hypothesis: few people actually *want* a full-blown community past about 25. They just think they do. It’s a lot of time and work to be involved in “community” in the sense of shared beyond-family communal daily life (meals etc) and weekly parties, seeing friends everyday etc.
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A typical paycheck workplace gives you vastly more, like 10x more, but you don’t need it. Half the people in an office typically have no interest in happy hour etc
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I do know people who hang out with friends beyond family for hours everyday (not counting work), but it’s surprisingly rare and in older people is often a sign of unhealthy codependency etc.
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Kids do seem to enforce minimum-viable-communality constraints, but I don’t see most parents doing any more kid-catalyzed social/community stuff than they have to. 🤔
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I don't know that this hypothesis holds up as well when said people have school-age children.
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I suspect after age 22 people next want community only at like 66, Ie heading into retirement. I see retirees being almost as social as kids.
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Haha I like this hot take “extroverts stuck in college” I may be in that camp, but I’m also not 51 with 3 kids Shouldn’t this be more of a criticism of poor urban design in the U.S. than the people within them? I don’t want full-blown community, but miss a serendipitous campus
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Ughh... As an Introvert I've gotta say that "trusted" part of emergency contact is almost impossible to find. I do want a partner to play shuttlecock with. Every single social network(my first was yahoo chat rooms) I find myself distancing from the more popular it gets.(Clubhouse