the narcissists peril — believing in the best of what people pretend to see in you (or even believe they see in you)
It’s like p-value fishing for an identity.
If you find yourself repeating the most flattering things people have ever said about you, beware. Big fall ahead.
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“You’re the smartest guy since Einstein” — your mom
“Your social analysis is the sharpest since Marx” — guy whose reading topped out at the Hardy Bots and gets his political philosophy from Wikipedia
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Unless you’re an absolutely friendless pariah you’ve likely surrounded yourself with people who are at least slightly more likely to say nice things about you, at least to your face. That doesn’t mean you should take any of it at face value.
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Mild flattery is default mode in casual interactions. Only intimates, strangers, and weird, messed-up assholes will say default mean things. Unless you’re in prison or strange parts of Twitter or something.
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Hell is other people
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Replying to @nihaarsinha
Not arguing with the value of inflated self-esteem. It’s just dangerous to derive it from what people say/see of you.
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I’m owning it. Hardy Bots is a genius typo.
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Replying to @vgr
hardy bots is a great idea for a book series (or maybe straight to netflix?)
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