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There’s something off about the user acquisition UI if someone like me gets invited dozens of times despite not wanting to join as an entirely personal preference but interested people far from SV still have to scrounge for invites.
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Seriously nothing personal. I just don’t like random no-agenda real-time audio hangouts even with friends. A friend used to call me on my birthday to wish me and I had to tell him to stop. I don’t call up friends randomly to chat. I screen calls.
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I prefer video even for work calls, but accept audio with clients I’ve known a while or family. I participate in a couple of scheduled discord calls that have a purpose/agenda related to my projects.
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I’ve had to politely decline a couple of dozen times now and it’s increasingly annoying because it feels like I’m being cast as some sort of asshole snob pointlessly resisting to act superior or something. No, the medium is just an imposition for me and not enjoyable.
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I don’t blame the people trying to get me on but I’m starting to get mildly pissed at the app designers who’ve clearly created a very successful acquisition UX that creates this kind of siege-like pressure wherever the algorithm is pointed. That can’t end well.
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Tweak whatever knobs you have to, but don’t weaponize the strong tribal CAQ loop you’ve clearly engineered (congrats) to the point it creates emergent annoying effects. I mean Instagram and TikTok don’t create this kind of pressure on non-participant bystanders opting-out.
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Lots of my friends are on CH. I want to keep those friends. Don’t evolve the platform in a way that locks them up socially. And if you’re in CH... please learn to read the signs when people don’t want to join and leave them alone. Announce you have invites and let people ask.
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This has been my debut am-I-the-asshole thread 🤣 Oh yeah... Reddit is another scene I never joined but nobody gave me grief for that, and I am content to just occasionally read discussions without logging in.
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Oh and to be clear, in the little war they have going on against the NYT, I'm definitely more sympathetic to the SV crowd... don't want this getting misread as a generally anti-CH position. If you like it great, and you shouldn't be getting harassed by the NYT for hanging out
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