Really don’t get people who are organizing things like regular weddings and expecting people to go. Postpone or virtualize. Don’t force friends/relatives (esp at-risk ones) to choose between pointless risks and awkward refusal. Fnish line is so close potentially, with vaccines 😡
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Especially thoughtless re: elderly people who are much likelier to feel pressure of obligations and history of reciprocity in tight-knit social networks. Us atomized, disconnected types from younger generations can blow shit off much more casually.
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This pandemic has provided a real window into a phenomenon I didn’t know existed: pathologically selfish sociability.
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And why on earth would you take even a small risk that a meant-to-be happy day in your life might turn into some super spreading horror that kills half a dozen people?
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It’s not the Trumpies or anti-vaxxers or anti-maskers etc. They at least think they’re making some sort of bold political statement, no matter how stupid. It’s the apathetically shallow people who pull this shit merely because they don’t want to be socially inconvenienced.
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LA looked almost normal in November. Then boom people decided Covid threat had magically receded and gathering for thanksgiving and Christmas was more important and... deadly second wave.
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Completely agree with this. It's irresponsible to do otherwise.
I would take decisions for my parents not to go because I don't care about social obligations as much.
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Extroverts believe, in inverse proportion to their intelligence, that they create value by being around others. This is often a self-fulfilling prophecy, since middle managers are such people. THAT is their resistance to remote work. It's not about slacking: it's lack of F2F
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I never got this. You don't have a deadline. If you love each other now, hopefully you'll still love each other enough in a year to do it then. There's nothing urgent or critical about this. People haven't been able to travel and see their dying parents, which is way more urgent





